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Nurturing Relationships

Thursday, May 17th, 2012

Welcome to my first blog entry. I’m very new to the world of blogging and hope for this to be a place where I can post musings about relationships, child development, parenting and neuroscience in an “easy to comprehend” format. Note my website name -Nurturing Relationships- this is what my blog will explore! So let’s get started with my first post!

5 Ways to Nurture Your Relationships

  1. Listen. Really listen to others. Whether the other person is your child, your spouse, your co-worker, or friend, listening with full attention conveys you really care!
  2. Combine honesty with kindness. It is important to share your thoughts and feelings, even when you think the other person might not agree. When you can communicate how you feel in a kind way, the other person is likely to be much more open to hearing you.
  3. Stick with it. Be willing to talk about “tough” things (remember #2, honesty with kindness). Avoiding difficult topics does not lead to a good relationship. Find ways to talk about difficult topics and disagreements. Sometimes the old adage, “we can agree to disagree”, can come in handy here.
  4. Have fun and laugh. Most people are so busy with the day-to-day hustle and bustle of life that we can forget to spend time enjoying life. Frequently plan time for fun people in your life. Try a day at the beach, a short hike in the woods, a comedy club, a funny movie, etc. 
  5. Take care of yourself – self-care. I’m big on supporting people in engaging in self-care. We all need to “fill our cup” daily! Think of little things you can do each day that will inspire and energize you. If you are short on ideas Google “self-care ideas”!
Rachel Talamantez, MA, LMFT, provides psychotherapy, parenting support and reflective practice in Santa Clara County, California where she sees children, couples and adults. She is endorsed in California as an Infant-Family and Early Childhood Mental Health Specialist and a Reflective Practice Facilitator Mentor. She holds a Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology and is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. Visit Rachel’s website at